Disillusioned with the concept of the New Year's Resolution, there are many people who are adopting the idea of using one word as a theme or focus for the year. There's a ton of appeal to this: it's nonspecific, doesn't involve empty promises, and emphasizes growth and self-improvement in a much more holistic sort of way. In addition to whatever one word you have chosen for yourself, here's our word for the moms and moms-to-be out there: ENOUGH. Why did we choose it? Well...
In 2017, we challenge you to see yourself as enough.
Not "good enough" in the sense of aspiring to mediocrity, but that you, just as you are, are enough. That you, yes you, are exactly what your family needs. You are enough as a parent. You are the best mom for your baby. You have everything you need to parent well. You don't need to be "good enough' because you ARE enough.
Say "enough" when people try to make you feel small.
You're not small. You are wonderful and worthwhile. Your voice matters. You have great ideas. You matter and you're important. If I sound like I'm quoting The Help, #sorrynotsorry because really and truly, YOU have value. You are more than your circumstances, you are more than your failures, and you're even more than your successes.
Say "enough" to the pressure to measure up.
Other moms. Other wives. Other women. Pinterest. Whatever it's tempting to compare yourself to and bemoan the fact that you aren't quite there, say "enough." You don't need to measure up to someone else's ideal or standard. Set goals and work for them because you love yourself, not because you think it will make someone love you or value you more.
You're enough, but you don't have to go it alone.
Asking for help, leaning on your village, and relying on others doesn't change the fact that you're enough just as you are. Being enough doesn't mean you never need support from the people around you. It means that your worth isn't defined by that need. We all get by with a little help from our friends (and sometimes a little help from a doula or two), and unrealistic expectations need not apply. You're enough, mama. You're enough, friend. You're enough, sister. You're enough, daughter. You're enough, wife. Say it until you believe it, girl.