Everybody has a birth plan

birth planBirth plans are common enough nowadays that “Do you have a written birth plan?” has made the list of intake questions when you check in at the hospital. You see people asking for birth plan examples in mommy groups, and you might be wondering, “Wait, do I even need one of these?!”

Well, yes and no.

The truth is that everybody has a birth plan. We all come into birth with some preconceived notion of how it’s going to go. You might be expecting a “natural” or unmedicated birth, or you might know you want the epidural as fast as they can get it to you. You might be open to a more wait-and-see approach where you know that relief is there if you need it. You might already know that you will be induced or are going to have a scheduled cesarean. You may trust your doctor wholeheartedly and your plan is to show up and go with the flow. All of these are valid options!

How does a doula help me with my birth plan?

Whether or not you write your birth plan down is completely up to you. Contrary to popular opinion, it isn’t a “must” to bring a written birth plan to the hospital. Plenty of women have beautiful birth experiences and leave the birth plan at home, and others feel better having it packed in their bag and ready to go. When you hire Doulas of Memphis for your birth, we spend time during our prenatal visit talking through your plan for birth. This is our time to get to know all of your wishes and preferences, and help you sift through all of your options. We are familiar with your birthplace and can tell you what’s commonplace and what you should discuss with your doctor prior to birth. If you like, we can provide you with a Birth Preferences template and help you get your thoughts on paper. This is our time with you to make sure we are on the same page and to learn how we can best meet your needs. If that changes during labor, we’re great at rolling with it and meeting you in that moment. You’re never chained to the paper with us and your birth plan is not a standard to which we hold you. It’s simply a tool for you to be able to gain confidence in communicating your wishes and desires with each other, your doula, your doctor, and any hospital staff you come into contact with.

The most important kind of birth plan

The most important kind of birth plan is the one that you’ve communicated with your birth team. Birth comes with a bit of unpredictability, so focusing on your overall goals and remaining flexible is key. Your doctor and nurses want you to have a safe, healthy delivery and a positive experience. You should never be afraid to ask for what you need — they’re there to help you and to explain why if they are unable to accommodate a particular wish on your list. While they work to keep things running smoothly, your doula is there to attend to your other non-medical needs. Even if your plans change, our support for you never will.

If you’d like to hear more about adding a doula to your birth team, give us a call!

The grass is greener where you water it

greener Ever notice that when you talk about our city, you typically get one of two reactions? I remember being surprised by that when I first came here 10 years ago. Sure, Memphis has its problems and idiosyncrasies like any other place, but I could never make myself hate it here. Memphis is home. It’s my home. There’s no real reason it should be, but it is. I guess this city will do that to you. If you’re nodding your head, you know what I mean.

Here’s the thing: instead of looking at the grass on the other side, looking at Nashville, looking at Chattanooga, looking at all the other places we could be except here...what if we water the grass we have?

We love Memphis and we’re not going anywhere

Doulas of Memphis is committed to blooming where we’re planted. We care about this city and we care about the people in it. We want to invest in building relationships, to get to know you not only as families giving birth or as doctors and nurses caring for patients, but as people. We want to know what you’re passionate about, we want to know what you bring to this city where we all live, work, and love. We want every interaction you have with us to leave you feeling supported and cared for, even if it’s nothing more than a brief encounter at the grocery store.

Building bridges, starting conversations

As doulas, we approach our work free of judgment and full of humility. We aren’t here to advocate for you, and our goal isn’t to lower the cesarean rate or make sure as many families as possible are breastfeeding their babies. We’re not even here to make sure you know what the evidence says or how you should interpret it for your family. We’re here to nurture the relationships you’ve built with the people you’ve chosen to surround yourself with. We want to create a culture of support in our city, to build bridges with hospitals and have conversations about our shared goals and how our support can complement the care they provide.

If you’d like to get to know us better, give us a call or hop on over to our contact page and drop us a line. We can’t wait to serve you